There's
something you need to know about me, I need constant reassurance. I might ask
you multiple times a day if you or someone else likes me or if I've upset you
or made you uncomfortable. I can't help it, and I am sorry.
I
understand this must be a highly frustrating thing for you, as my friend. You
might be confused as to why I keep asking you over and over, "please tell me
I've not upset you" "do you promise you don’t hate me?". Its frustrating for me
too! To have that almost constant fear that I've upset someone I care about,
when most of the time I cant even come up with a reason why, is exhausting.
It might
be because you don't text me back as soon as I expect you to, it might be
because we've not spoken in a few days, or it might just be as simple as I'm
feeling a little insecure that day.
Its not
just friendships and relationships I need reassurance of, its myself too. You
might hear me say "I'm not good enough" or I might belittle my own emotions or
actions, and I promise you I'm not fishing for compliments here, I do genuinely
feel these things. You might get tired of telling me "you are enough" or "that
thing you just did was really good" when I'm struggling to believe you, but
please don’t give up on me. Every time you reassure me it helps me see a little
clearer, even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time.
I am hard
work, I know. Who would want a friend that needs constant reassurance and
someone to constantly be telling them all the good things about them? But I
appreciate those that have the patience to do so. I really do.
BPD is
such a complicated disorder for even me to understand and I live with it
everyday, I don’t expect anyone else to understand, but I am glad when you try.
Its easy to say "I'm here for you", "I understand", but it takes a really special person and friend to take the time to actually be there for you, even if to you it sounds
totally neurotic and insane.